Of course, there are tender moments of the heart, but other more serious issues of life should also take up space in your interactions. I don’t think the essence is that hidden. I am wondering the kind of future one will have with a man who TALKS mostly sex with her. Let him know how you feel about the rest of the setting. So, you either make up your mind to flow with whatever snippets of excitement that such moments bring you or gradually begin to redirect your mind towards more desirable options. Superficiality all the way no deep commitments sexual good times only. I may be reading things wrongly, but experience has taught me that when a supposed “matter of the heart” (that has a FUTURE undertone) starts off on a “wham bam” ideality …that is all there will ever be to it. People, who mean well, are never in a hurry to get you on the same page (of their preferences)… they LET YOU come around at your own pace.

Impatience (in matters of the heart) is a selfish attribute. However, I have a problem with people who tend to RUSH others with their “wants and desires”. Then again, the human mind is so flexible that it can always be conditioned to respond differently to unique circumstances. Personally, virtual sex doesn’t hold it for me. Please, do you think he is being controlling?”

Please, is this reaction from him a red flag? He has also accused me of not being something ‘fluidity’ and even questioned if I really love him. He said that I have to keep giving him something to look forward to and I reminded him that I have done enough of that. I told him that I wouldn’t indulge him in these virtual sex episodes again. Now, this new one is doing the same thing. This was why I quit the relationship that I had with a widower a few years back. Too much sex talk in a budding relationship worries me. The other day, I had to ask him if he is on a permanent ‘hard on.’ Is it that he thinks about sex every day? And he told me that it is because of the feelings that he has for me.

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